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Saturday, February 13, 2016

The Week of Love

By Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light 
This week leading up to Valentine's Day can be kind of rough if you don't have a sweetie. In America, we choose to celebrate romantic love on February 14, but if you don't have someone special in your life, or if things aren't going so well in your relationship, this time of the year can feel challenging.
Before my accident, I spent many Valentine's Days alone and like a lot of other folks out there, it was tough to be reminded of that lack of a sweetheart during the week leading up to Feb. 14. Things are a little different for me now, and it's not because I have a have a wonderful new man in my life. I don't. My attitude about love changed drastically after my accident and NDE.

I now know that Spirit loves us all at a level beyond imagining. I am gifted with the ability to see and feel it now, whenever I want, and it's there all the time. And the Divine wraps you in love, too, right here, right now, no matter what you think of yourself in this moment. No matter how wonderful or awful things are, Spirit loves you beyond measure. Believe it. Trust it. You are love at your core, and you are surrounded by Divine love. No exceptions :-)

Isn't that cool?

To give myself visual reminders of this love all around, I like to go on Love Walks. If you've read my book you know what they are. I simply take a walk through town and celebrate any evidence of love, kindness, or compassion that I see. I don't jump up and down or shout when I see it, I simply say a quiet "Thank You" to Spirit for witnessing it and then I send out a silent prayer or blessing.

Right now I'll take you on a Virtual Love Walk as a little gift of love and kindness to you this Valentine's Day. Thank you for being so kind and supportive to me...I hope to return the favor someday!














Love and Blessings to all of you...

Nancy

Posted by Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light ( http://NancyRynes.com )
All content copyright Nancy Rynes, 2015-2016

Saturday, February 6, 2016

Letting Go of Non-Love

By Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light 


I'm sorry to report that having an NDE does not lead to instant enlightenment, at least not in my case. I know, kind of a bummer, eh? I was gifted with a vision of a lovely-looking spiritual path that I could take, one that promised to be amazing, challenging, fun at times, and loving, but I still had to take the steps to walk the path. I had to do the work.


 It's recently become apparent that I still have a lot of work ahead of me on this spiritual journey. 

A couple of nights ago I was having dinner with my dear friend, Jacqueline, and another friend of hers whom I hadn't previously met. As the evening progressed and we talked about spiritual matters, I noticed I was having a lot of trouble finding the right words whenever I spoke -- a  lingering effect of my TBI (traumatic brain injury) that often worsens when I am tired. Anyway, I felt increasingly frustrated with my brain and how it just didn't seem to be working right, so I mentioned something to Jacquie and her friend.  I do this often...stumble with my words and apologetically tell folks why it's happening so that that they understand what's going on. But something about my apology this particular night tugged at my heart. I let it go, knowing that I would have time to deal with it once I was home. 

When I arrived home later that evening and relaxed, it dawned on me why tonight's apology for my brain didn't feel very good. The motivation driving the apology wasn't simply about giving information, as I had fooled myself into believing all this time. What was really fueling the apology was a very small, almost undetectable, undercurrent of shame that I had been carrying with me since my accident. The shame I felt was about how my brain functioned "differently" now. It didn't work the same as it did prior to my accident, and I was focusing on the differences that I perceived as "bad" or losses: occasional speaking difficulties, word-finding, ability to do math, and computer programming/technical work. And because I focused on the negatives, I felt embarrassed or ashamed because part of me felt I no longer "measured up." 



I had one of those "Ah-Ha!" moments: I was not being very loving to me and my brain! Would I treat someone else in this way? Would I be ashamed if someone else struggled? No way, so why was I being that way with me? 

I allowed myself to acknowledge the mix of things I was feeling, and then I simply cried. With the tears came compassion and the gentle release of the embarrassment. I eventually switched gears and visualized myself and my brain encased in an energetic rainbow of acceptance and love. Many positive changes came as a result of the accident, the near-death experience, and yes, even the TBI: enhanced artistic ability and creativity, being more in touch with feeling and emotion, being more sensitive/psychic, feeling calmer and much less fearful, heightened intuition, and more. I took time to celebrate the positives, then realized that feeling shame at the losses didn't serve me anymore. They were nothing that I could control and I was doing the best that I could, so why be embarrassed?

Feeling shame with parts of ourselves seems to be all too common these days, whether it is about our appearance, a personality trait, or how we choose to live our lives. And our culture is often all too happy to reinforce our own sense of shame. It doesn't do us any good, though, because shame is just another form of non-love. It doesn't feel very good.

Spirit loves each one of us. There are no conditions. Divine love is on a scale that our human brains and hearts cannot grasp. But it is not our jobs to love at God's level. It IS part of our jobs to try to love as best as we can at the human level, though, and that includes learning to love and accept ourselves through all out faults, foibles, and awesomeness. And yes, we each ARE awesome in our own individual way!

If you are directing a bit of non-love at yourself, please don't ignore it. Ignoring it won't make it go away; it will just lurk like a huge pink elephant in the corner of the room. Instead, try to give yourself the love and compassion you would gift on a dear friend who was dealing with the same issue. Acknowledge what you feel. Embrace it with acceptance and compassion. Take some quiet time, pray or meditate, and ask for help releasing the non-love. Visualize yourself being surrounded by a beautiful, warm, glowing light of love and compassion. Understand the non-love is only making you feel bad, then allow it to dissolve as best as you can. To fill the space where the non-love used to be, make a daily habit of celebrating at least 3 good things about you. Repeat as often as you need.


If you are truly hobbled by shame, please get some help from a counselor or spiritual advisor. You deserve to feel good about YOU!


Thank you, and Blessings...


Nancy



Posted by Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light ( http://NancyRynes.com )


All content copyright Nancy Rynes, 2015-2016

Tuesday, February 2, 2016

What if Nothing Works? Questions about Manifesting...

By Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light 


Recently, I had a reader ask this question:

I read both of your blog posts about manifesting, which were so wonderful. My question is... What if you do EVERYTHING the books, speakers, blogs, authors, motivational speaker say to do including releasing it to God and NOTHING EVER manifests for you? You watch and read about all these people manifesting wonder and amazing things and you stay stuck.

Sincerely, Losing hope and very frustrated...


I'm so sorry that things aren't working out the way you had hoped. I think that happens to pretty much everyone at one time or another. That might not make you feel better, but just know you are not alone. While I am not an expert at teaching manifesting or coaching people through roadblocks, a few things come to mind that perhaps you can think about. I'll also share some things I notice in my own life when I encounter these types of blocks.



First, stop *trying* so hard! :-)  I say this with love and a sense of humor, because we humans can get so caught up on wanting things to be just the way we think they should, in the time we think they should happen. I would suggest a "manifesting-fast" for a month or so. Stop trying. Breathe. Relax. Focus on appreciating what you do have in your life right now, as small as you think that may be. 

Next, look inside your heart and mind. What is your self-talk like? What inner words do you direct at others and yourself? You don't have to be perfect here, either in loving/appreciating yourself or being truly kind to others, but take this time to make some effort to be a little better. Clean up your inner negativity a bit and see if that helps. Rev. Edwene Gaines talks about a negativity fast, and you can read more about that here:  Negativity Fast

Another thought that comes to mind is to focus less on yourself, what you personally have or don't have in your life, or the things you want to acquire, and instead look for ways to help others. Check out the quote and the graphic, above. When your hands are open to give, they are also open to receive. I heard that idea a long time ago, in slightly different words, and love the concept because it's been so true in my life. Help others when you can, either with time, donations of money (tithing), a smile, a small kindness, or even a friendly face. Be giving with your heart and compassion, but  not out of a sense of obligation. Do it because you want to help others.

I have more ideas like this scattered throughout my book Awakenings from the Light, so if you have that available, flip through it for some ideas. Giving helps keep the flow of love and energy moving.

For myself, I tithe. I give 10% of my income to causes that I believe are doing God's work. When things seem blocked in my life, I always make sure that I have done my tithing. When the flow of energy (love, opportunities, creativity, money, kindness, etc.) is blocked, 95% of the time I haven't done my tithing. This happened just a few weeks ago in fact. It had been many weeks since I had sold an artwork and I was beginning to wonder what was going on. Then I realized I had forgotten to tithe on the last money that came in. I made my donations and I kid you not, within 2 days I sold 2 large paintings and received inquiries about 3 other paintings that may also turn into sales. I keep in mind that the money I make is ultimately God's and because of this I feel it's my responsibility to support not only myself and my family, but also those people or organizations who are doing good in service to others or our planet.

Next, ask Spirit if you are on the right path. Perhaps the roadblocks are coming into your life for a reason. Ask God, aloud, if you are on the right path, and if not, then ask to be shown what steps to take next. And I always like to add: "Make it clear and obvious to me" because sometimes I don't catch on when Spirit is trying to show me something. Wait and watch for any answers that might come, then be prepared to act.

Then when you're ready to go back to manifesting, have FuN with it! Don't make it a drudgery. Instead of reciting lists of what I want, I instead have a vision board (aka, my refrigerator!). I attach pics of what I want to attract there, out in the open where I can see it every day, and I have FUN with it. You can make a vision board on a piece of GatorBoard or cardboard, too, if you don't want to use your refrigerator. Or figure out your own, unique way to have fun visualizing your goals.

Remember to play with attracting what you want. If you make it a chore, you're sending out a negative vibe, which is exactly what you don't want. Figure out a way to make Manifesting = Play and then you'll look forward to it. For example, here in Boulder, Colorado, we received over a foot of snow last night. But I want to play with manifesting, so I'll  ask God right now to send a butterfly my way, just for fun. Let's see what happens. :-)

And a Sneak Peek...

As a Thank You, from Feb. 4 to 11, 2016, receive an almost 50% discount on the eBook/Kindle version of Awakenings from the Light at Amazon.com. Now is a great time to buy the Kindle version of the book for yourself or a friend. More details to follow...



Thank you, and Blessings...

Nancy


Posted by Nancy Rynes, author of Awakenings from the Light ( http://NancyRynes.com )



All content copyright Nancy Rynes, 2015-2016